the years we would talk, but it slowly started dissipating and I
realised after a while that this one woman had been there for me through
a multitude of things.
A Delightful Mix of Cultures! See Biodun & Ijeoma’s Beautiful Wedding | Femi Ajisafe Photography
The groom, Biodun is Yoruba and Ijeoma the lovely bride is Igbo so their entire wedding ceremony was such a delightful mix of cultures!
white wedding took place on a lake and the aesthetics were truly
incredible. The wedding theme was “Old Hollywood” so the reception
hall, Mia Bella had a Marilyn Monroe touch; with gold stands decorated with white feathers and pearls as centrepieces.
My dress was an elegant Oleg Cassini
masterpiece with an illusion boatneck, chapel train, feminine ball gown
silhouette and beaded lace appliques. It was just perfcet for my old
Holloywood theme and I found it after so much time spent looking for and
trying on so many dresses!
Highlight of our day was the surprise performance by Saxophonist Shola Iyiola.
~ Pre-wedding Photography: Femi Ajisafe
How We Met
The bride, Ijeoma‘s story
and I met through a mutual friend of ours. My friend was scrolling
through his Facebook and I saw a picture of he and his friends and I
said: “Hold up, who’s that cutie?”. That was how it began, literally.
friend went back to his school; the University of Mississippi and told
Biodun that I had expressed interest in him, and from there, we became
friends on Facebook and started communicating.
the years our friendship solidified as he would talk to me about
relationship issues and me likewise. My school was far from his and we
both had a lot on our plate, so we agreed that friendship would be the
best option at that time.
forward to 2014, our communication had decreased drastically, the phone
conversations and Skype sessions were no longer frequent, if at all.
Biodun hit me up unexpectedly and this time wanted more than friendship,
he was quite persistent.
talked with my elder sister and asked her to talk to me. Then he
randomly started sending me gifts, from flowers to nicely priced bags.
My sister insisted that I gave him a chance, so I did and we began
talking again as friends.
When a mutual friend of mine told me that a pretty Igbo girl named Ijeoma
had expressed interest in me I was excited. I went through her photos
and needless to say, I LOVED what I saw. She was just my type.
started talking to each other daily and even though I really liked her,
we both weren’t in the head space for a long distance relationship, as
we were both in college and I was very active in my fraternity (Phi Beta
She was also very active as the president of the African Students Unite (ASU) at her school, Missouri State University.
we continued keeping in touch, I realised she was dope and a keeper. We
were able to freely talk to each other about our relationships with no
judgements and unbiased advice, even though we had a thing for each
3 years ago I decided I wanted her to be my woman, distance or not. I
made my intentions known to her elder sister and began to chase Ijeoma.
We rekindled our friendship and from there I got her to like me again
and we finally sealed the deal as a couple.
The Bride’s story
We went on vacation to Las Vegas in November of 2015, during the
Thanksgiving period. I had never been and was excited and keen to
finally experience this city.
planned on staying there for the weekend and on the second day of our
stay there, after a long day of sight-seeing, we decided to make a funny
video of ourselves, mimicking Nollywood drama.
put on an alias as “Stacy” and was talking into the camera and even
sending my sisters short clips we were recording together. Then I
focused on recording Biodun, and started asking him silly questions, he
answered and we were laughing and goofing around.
I turned my back to him and continued what I was doing, then he jokingly said, “Ask Stacy if she will marry me”, and pulled out a box with a ring inside it.
this point I was confused because we were being silly as usual, so I
kind of thought this was all a part of his act and besides, I was not
expecting a proposal, at all. Then he repeated himself and I knew it was
not a joke.
I put my phone down and stopped recording and started crying.
Of course, I said YES!!
Advice to Other Couples:
advice for other couples would be to marry whom you love and can
genuinely be yourself around. I think in the Nigerian society we get so
hung up on what the right or wrong person looks like, that we miss out
on good people.
- As far as wedding planning, give yourselves time
to plan well, so it is executed properly. Don’t go for only
well-established vendors, there are people out there that are talented
and can do a great job, but if you fixate on the popular vendors, you
might miss out on quality services.
- The minister/pastor who
marries you is important, you don’t want a person who barely knows the
both of you solidifying your vows. We were blessed to have a family
friend and pastor wed us. Involve your families. Yes, it is about you
two, but your lives are becoming one and your family should feel like
they are part of the process, plus they can be a huge help, in relieving
you of some stress, by lending a helping hand.
~ White Wedding Photography: Femi Ajisafe
~ Traditional Wedding Photography: Femi Ajisafe